Talking with Young Children about Adoption by Mary WatkinsAbsolutely one of the best books Ive read regarding adoption. The first half of the book is very clinical and took me quite awhile to get through, but I went slow on purpose so as to permanently embed the info into my brain. The authors did an excellent job at discussing bias in adoption research, dissecting study after study and explaining what they really meant. They had the perfect balance of reality and compassion/emotion in discussing adoption research. They werent afraid to tackle difficult topics and so many times I felt myself saying Yes! Thats EXACTLY how I feel! They articulated so many thoughts and feelings I have had as parent of an adopted child.
The second half of the book was vignettes of real scenarios talking with children about adoption. It covered a broad range of ages and situations. I love how they included charts to show what types of questions are common at what stages of development and what could be the underlying feeling of a child behind certain words, phrases and concerns. They also included various responses from parents.
This book is 20 years old, but still contains excellent information for any family touched by adoption. I would absolutely love it if the authors updated it with more current research as adoption has changed so dramatically in the last two decades.
In Their Words - young people talking about adoption
Talking to your child about adoption
How to talk with young kids about adoption. What to say and when to say it. This is the first of a 4 part series on Talking with Children About Adoption. If you have adopted, please share your wisdom of your experience and especially your favorite books and resources in the comment section. Also, how would you have answered the typical questions I list below?
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It will be useful to adoptive parents and to professionals. Solnit, M.
Current wisdom holds that adoptive parents should talk with their child about adoption as early as possible. But no guidelines exist to prepare parents for the various ways their children might respond when these conversations take place. In this wise and sympathetic book, a clinical psychologist and a psychiatrist, both adoptive mothers, discuss how young children make sense of the fact that they are adopted, how it might appear in their play, and what worries they and their parents may have. Accounts by twenty adoptive parents of conversations about adoption with their children, from ages two to ten, graphically convey what the process of sharing about adoption is like. The book will be of invaluable help to parents, teachers, mental health professionals, and lawyers as they deal with the concerns young children have about being adopted. Mary Watkins and Susan Fisher begin by discussing parental fantasies and concerns that interfere with talking about adoption with their children. They then review the often outdated and disheartening adoption research, showing how its results can be distorted by apprehension and bias.
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